You can be yourself when you have great friendships. You can show your truest self, vent your problems to them, and just have fun. Sometimes it could be at their expense, your own, or some one else’s, but in that moment it doesn’t seem to matter as long as you’re laughing together. Most of all, it’s that time together that’s what you need. Sometimes you need their attention, their loving energy.
But more often than not, you need their approval. It’s great seeing their heads nod in agreement. They’re the ones that understand you. Friendships fill the times when you’re bored and when you feel alone. Alone, like on a hot summer day when you have nothing planned but the day is full of potential. Or alone, like when no one else understands how you feel.
Friendships, whether just one or dozens, have the potential to make our lives fuller, more adventurous, more loving, and more meaningful. So why is friendship so hard?
Why is it sometimes hard to find true friends? Not just people you’ve met at work who are more friends of convenience. And not friends who you inherited through family ties. Why is it hard to find friendships that last? And I mean last even when someone moves away or when you disagree on something or when the relationship changes because of a new partner/marriage and baby or two thrown in there.
It seems like whether you live in a big city in New York or a small town in Ohio, good friendships are hard to find. So…